weekly update #2 #3 #4 #5

shouldn't it be monthly update instead of weekly update? *scoffs*

1. On 22-24 December tomorrow, we're gonna visit our parents in Magelang, go go let's go.

2. Oh, did I tell you I enrolled STAN again? The test was done 2 weeks ago, must say I wasn't very good at preparation but it went well thankfully.. This is something that both of us bet our life on (providing you read the previous weekly update), so all we have to do now is crossing fingers.

3.  I was so excited to know Life of Pi came to town. So I dragged my hubby to the nearest theater and he nodded provided that I'll accompany him to watch 5cm.

4. Life of Pi is cool!! Too bad I watched it in 2D because it was weekend and 3D will cost us a lot (hey we're still in black period). The book is also great by the way, unlike another book-turned-movie, 5 cm, which sucks. In both versions.

5. Okay, this will be a super long story.

So we are on birth control plan, although we're not sure of how long it will be. The rule is when the baby comes, we're all financially and emotionally ready. Probably we are right now, however we still enjoy being only two of us and due to some other stuffs, like colleges and work, this will wait. People can say children have their own luck, but it's still their parents' duty to fulfill their needs, no?

Bla bla blah prologue ends. Two days before enrollment test, I threw up my snack. And my snack is Keripik Karuhun so it left a not-so-good feeling in my throat. I vomitted next to a tree in our way to Hotel Orchardz where my husband was to attend a meeting there. He thought I was having a bout of 'masuk angin' as usual. I insisted it was not, because I never threw up of it in my life. He bought me a hot tea and Tolak Angin and as soon as I entered our room-to-stay... I threw it all up again...

The third time was after dinner. You can tell I was getting weaker, my hubby was getting worried and we took a day off the next day to go to see a doctor. The doctor didn't dare to give me medicine because she was afraid it was a pregnant symptom!! So then we waited, day another day. I bought a few pregnancy test packs and kept my urine almost every morning...

6.   That, turned out to be no, I'm not pregnant. The results are all negative but I still didn't menstruate until a week later.

7.   And it left us confused. Suddenly I realize I want a baby too.....

do you still remember....

beberapa hari yang lalu, gw dan suami jalan ke Epicentrum Kuningan buat nonton pameran @pekankreatif. well niat kami tidak tulus suci buat nonton sih, lebih tepatnya kami habis membaca timeline sebuah situs travelling yang menawarkan hadiah paket liburan ke Karimunjawa buat pendatang yang beruntung, ya kami tertarik dong :p

naik motor melewati jalan-jalan di Kuningan...mata gw terpancang ke sebuah gedung bernama Setiabudi One; colek punggung suami... "hei, inget gak dulu di gedung itu kita ngapain?"
"tau dong...dulu di sana pertama kali kita ngomong-ngomong dan memutuskan untuk menikah...."

jeziiiiing...seketika otak saya berdenting, pertanda bahwa sekali lagi jawaban suami tidak seperti yang saya perkirakan. oh iya ya? ada acara begitu ya? yang gw inget sesungguhnya itu gedung dimana gw ngeyel minta dianterin buat acara buka puasa bareng di Anomali Coffee dan si suami (dulu masih pacar) nekat balik hujan-hujan buat buka puasa sama temennya di Cikini, lalu balik lagi menembus kemacetan jemput gw. daaangggggg!! ternyata habis itu ada adegan kamu ngelamar aku ya yang? ahahahahahahaha. *dijotos

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well sebenarnya kita dulu udah sering ngomongin soal nikah sih, tapi gak pernah benar-benar mutusin. cuman berkisar soal cita-cita finansial, rencana-rencana ketika berkeluarga, dan sebagainya. berhubung daya ingat suami lebih tajam, dia inget persis yah dimana kita memfinalisasikan urusan ini. hari itu pertengahan bulan Ramadhan.. dan begitu Lebaran tiba, si aa pun bertandang ke rumah untuk bertemu orang tua, disusul pertemuan orang tua beberapa minggu setelahnya. kita pun mulai membagi tugas, menyusun budget, merancang ide...

yes we did all the preparation in 4 months, digging all the money out until the very bottom, picking brains until it went rotten, losing weight and mind... because of one brilliant idea that came up out of nowhere, on that very day, 8th of August 2012, while sipping a cup of coffee in Anomali Coffee, Setiabudi One.

ya ampuuunn, pantes kan gw stres, cuma 4 bulan bok! *cabik-cabik jilbab*

tapi satu hal yang gw syukuri, Allah SWT itu bersama orang-orang yang punya niat baik. begitu kita berdua memantapkan hati buat menikah, rezeki melimpah kayak air hujan... rasa-rasanya hal yang tadinya kita agak kesulitan untuk adakan, tiba-tiba aja bisa. saat itu deh gw merasa ini sebagai bukti Allah meridhai langkah yang gw ambil, persiapan gw yang dirasa orang terlalu sebentar atau dirasa mereka kayak terburu-buru, buktinya cukup-cukup aja tuh. I can't say that everything was perfect, but I embrace all imperfections and let it be (i even pray the day's over soon!)

okay, maybe i kinda hope the entertainment were an jazzy acoustic band and they played A1's Living The Dream.. i've known the song since i was very young and it fit!

weekly update #1

1. We're finally moving. We did search for a house-for-rent but turned out they mostly had to be paid on yearly basis. We wanted a monthly rent because I aimed to go on study duty (what do they call 'tugas belajar'?) by January 2013, so, a yearly rent was impossible. After sitting back together and chatting over tea, we decided that we'll live in a bigger kos-kosan and the house will be yet to decide on January.

2.  I was granted the position of Chief Financial Officer (well, he simply declared the walking ATM) from His Majesty Royal Husband. I like to be taken charge of at least one job, and financial planning is something I am most curious about these days. I think I succeed in convincing him, due to the fact that I handled our last wedding planning quite good. Or he doesn't want the hassle... Many things to work on, and I am trying my best to get all of our needs financially ready.

3.  Our honeymoon is all about moving to one place and another. Hahaha, I wanted to say this was fun, but I was sick all the time. I think it's only a mere fatigue, fever and throatiness and such, but it took days to recover :( Luckily my husband is very gentle and willing to take care of me. On to the important note, at first we wanted to have this honeymoon planned seriously (or maybe just me).. We thought of Lombok, Bali, a cruise, and decided on Penang...in April next year! So that's it, we have nowhere to go after wedding, hihihi, but as a gift to ourselves we stayed in a four-star hotel after leaving Samarinda, instead of going hiking to Gunung Bromo because I was still sick.

4. After a long long time...we entered the cinema! To watch Breaking Dawn Part II! Haha, the movie is not great, but during the entire Twilight Saga, we only missed the first movie of not watching it together so yes it's personal reason :P

5.  I love my husband even more... even more when he stepped forward to do the bathroom cleaning, the ironing, and serving me hot tea when I couldn't. That's a rare quality I'm glad to find (except cooking, my father wouldn't want to do household chores..he only deals with electricity, machines, and all man-things)


that's it... i would be happy to provide some pictures on the next posting.. my camera's been acting strange lately..

unimportant update though..

Entah sejak kapan blog ini berubah menjadi blog kawinan. Sempat ditawarin pacar gimana kalo dia beli akun khusus buat ngebahas kawinan sekaligus jadi e-undangan kita. Noooo... Muke gile lo, pembaca blog gw ini aja cuma segelintir, dan sekalian males banget tulisan gak jelas gw ini jadi bahasan orang-orang. Udahlah bro, bikin event di facebook aja yak.

Tadinya weekend kemarin ini kita mau ke Magelang sekaligus nghadirin kawinan temen di Batang, tapi mengingat masi ada hal-hal yang belom kelar dan minggu depannya udah Idul Adha, kita batalin rencana ini. Susah menuntaskan semua pekerjaan karena emang kita cuma punya waktu pas weekend. Hari kerja kemaren gw disibukkan dengan latihan paduan suara (yesss! you read it right!) cyin. Alhamdulillah begitu wiken kita bisa geber tenaga dan nyelesein beberapa hal.

Baiklah, pingin menjabarkan sedikit soal kekisruhan persiapan kewong ini:

the boyfriend ngelem kardus undangan....

1. UNDANGAN: Desain sesuai kemauan kita tapi tapi tapi Ya Gustiiii, finishingnya inkonsisten! Ada yang rapi jali, ada yang mbleber kemana-mana. Haduh sedih tak terkira hatiku. Selesai ngecek kelalaian pengerjaan, kita langsung kirim ke Samarinda via kargo.

2. SESERAHAN: Tinggal masalah packaging. Umumnya orang emang nghias seserahan pake wadah dan dihias-hias trus diplastikin gitu yah, tapi berhubung bakal diantar via transportasi udara otomatis gw kuatir bakalan rusak di bagasi dong. Alternatifnya sih gw pikir dibungkus kertas kado aja, hemat dan bisa dijejal-jejalin di kardus. Titik belanjanya tersebar ke seluruh penjuru Jakarta dalam rangka menyesuaikan dengan ketersediaan diskon dan status value for money alias semurah-murahnya harga barang bagus: Hypermart Gadjah Mada, Mall Ambassador, Thamrin City, Payless Semanggi, Matahari Atrium, cicierobags.com (btw, kalo mau dapet diskon, jadilah member forum fashionesedaily.com), The Body Shop.

3. TITIPAN KEBAYA ADEK-ADEK: Sebenarnya bermula ketika gw sedang jalan-jalan di Mal Ambassador dan mendadak melihat kebaya lucu buat anak umur 3 tahun dan meskipun harganya lumayan mehong gw beli juga deh. Elahh setelah nelpon Ibuk beliau jadi nanya "loh kok Iin (adek gw yang sudah SMA) gak dibeliin sekalian?" Mampus. Akhirnya beli juga deh dengan harga yang ternyata jauh lebih murah daripada kebaya anak 3 tahun. Baru kepikiran kok harganya mahal banget.

4. SUVENIR: Awalnya gw sempat riang gembira karena dari bujet yang gw sediakan, gw dapat harga yang lumayan jauh lebih murah. Ternyata ya mbakyu, harga ngirimnya ke Samarinda SETENGAH dari harga suvenir yang bersangkutan. *nangis* Mana suvenir udah dibungkus mika, meskipun beratnya ringan tapi kargo ngitung volume barang. Jadi untuk item ini agak nombok -__-

5. HONEYMOON: Yah meskipun berangkatnya gak serta merta abis kawinan sih...gak sempet bok. Pacar pengen ke Thailand, gw kepengen Penang. Hasilnya? Oh sudah pasti gw yang menang, ngiahahaha.


Aaaaaahhh, lega!! Tinggal ngurusin dunia pertiketan dan cari kontrakan -__-

Sejauh ini gw bersyukur banget nget nget karena di antara hectic-nya hari-hari gw sebulan dan dua bulan menjelang hari H, minggu ini dan H-7 bos gw DL ke luar negeri. Alhamdulillah *semoga si bos gak baca* akhirnya gw bisa agak nyante dan fokus. Sebenarnya minggu-minggu lalu ini yang bikin gw agak bermuram durja karena load kerja nambah ampun-ampunan, hahahaha, tapi di saat begini gw baru nyadar kalo sesungguhnya ini salah satu kemudahan yang Allah berikan. Tsaahhh.

Anyway, tanggal 20 Oktober kemaren pacar ultah. Yes, ulang tahun kita emang cuma beda sehari :) Dirayain dengan birthday dinner 2 malam berturut-turut dan unexpectedly, hadiah yang kita kasih ke satu sama lain sama-sama jam tangan, hihihi.

@ Cheesecake Factory, semoga rencana-rencana kita ke depan lancar yah..

happy 21!!

it's been a while since i posted this in this blog. i wrote arctic monkeys' lyrics because at that time i was in some kind of teenage confusion, which was later answered by God the following days and got me posting this one.

and the rest...is..our wedding. grateful for all of that.


By the way, i am now 21!!!

The boyfriend asked me out yesterday, he said that this year he didn't want to get through my birthday only by phone, so I spent hours with him.. Starting from 9.30 pm I was waiting for him outside and we went out for dinner.

We ate Indomie, no candlelights. (but darling promise me tonight or tomorrow we're gonna eat at Holycow Steakhouse yeee)

Then I wanted to go to karaoke lounge, hehehe, so we rode to Diva Salemba. Having entered at 10.30 pm, I sang Beyonce's, Kelly Clarkson's, and any other divas I'm famously known for singing terribly, and as the clock ticks by he finally gave me a rose.

Hiyaaaaaa... after this year we've been together that's the only flower you ever gave! *whips*

But that's not what I'm almost turned to tears for...

He handed me a gift box with a paper wrapping around written 'Welcome to 21' and guess what, he also printed out 3 film posters we watched together that marked our very, very first date.

How very sweet of him :) I don't ever care what's inside the box. In a correct order the movies he printed around would be:

Salt (mid-2010, I was in Bintaro for Prajab and asked him out in the weekend as I didn't have friends to do so)
Rise of Planet of the Apes (Sept 2011, mind the gap between the first movie... again I asked him out hahahaha, as if it's clearly seen who's into first, but nayy, it's a casual ask-out, funny how he sees this as a date)
The Three Musketeers (Oct 2011, this time it was on him, after dinner and watching footie we were finally a couple..)

but maybe what moves my heart the most is his letter that says: selamat ulang tahun calon istriku.

i am happy. completely.

random, mumet, labil...

Instead of feeling happy and excited, persiapan perkawinan ini malah bikin gw stres... Ada aja yg bikin adu mulut, bentak bentakan, mumet.. Keluarga pengen gini, pacar ngomong gini, duit gw semakin terasa pas-pasan gara-gara perhitungan anggaran membengkak di sana-sini, kontrakan belom dapet, kerjaan ga abis-abis..dicolek dikit rasanya pengen ngebanting orang. Gw depresi berat..sampai akhirnya di suatu titik gw berpikir: the hell with this wedding, terserah deh mau macem apa.. Mau ngundang ribuan orang atau cuma puluhan kek, mau pesen kambing guling kek, mau cuti berapa hari kek, mau pake adat ini itu atau enggak kek.. Gw pingin semua urusan ini cepet selese. Gw bahkan gak peduli bakal pake baju apa, sepatu apa, dandanan gimana. Terserah. Males banget rasanya ngurusin semua.. Acara 1 hari aja udah kayak derita berkepanjangan.. Dan di kala gw pengen curhat sama pacar, mencari pelipur lara, dianya juga sibuk.

Aaaahh, kenapa? Kenapa gw bisa berpikir begitu? Kok gw gak excited sih? Kok gw gak pedulian sih? Kenapaaaa? Gw terus bertanya-tanya dalam hati apa ini sindrom prapernikahan? Apa ini momen dimana cinta dan kesungguhan hati dan mentalmu diuji? (prett bangeeettt). Kalo pacar udah bertindak menyebalkan pulang-pulang tidur gw langsung gak enak dan semakin kepikiran banyak hal. Kok gak kayak pas awal pacaran ya? Ketipu dong gw? Trus tar gimana nasib gw kalo udah telanjur kawin? Putus dulu masi bisa gak ya? Tiap hari gw memastikan perasaan si pacar dengan bolak-balik nanya "lo cinta gak sih sama gw? masi pengen kawin sama gw gak sih? coba dipikir ulang deh..." Mendadak gw ragu sama diri sendiri, ragu sama pacar, pesimis sama semua hal, dan tiap denger lagu Foolish Games berasa pengen nangis di bawah shower. Masalah kecil semuaaa jadi terasa ribet dan berat.

Kadang terpikir di benak kalo gw masi labil, belom cukup dewasa untuk terjun di dalam kekisruhan ini :( 

Tapi di tengah-tengah kelabilan dan emosi gw yang pasang surut itu *aiihh, bahasanya* gw berusaha untuk kembali ke tempat gw berdiri. Inget-inget masa dimana semua ini bermula. 

Ngemeng apa gw -__-

hemat / boros?

Ngomong-ngomong soal teori save and splurge, banyaaakkk banget yang saya pelajari tentang ini. Beberapa hal bisa dikompromikan, dan beberapa lainnya enggak. Mungkin ini sedikit hal yang menurut saya susaahhh banget buat di-save:

1. Mesin cuci

I want the energy-efficient front loading one!! Ngerasain banget gimana baju yang baru saya beli di Matahari begitu dimasukin ke mesin cuci top loading rumah yang sebenarnya lumayan bagus ...benang-benangnya langsung mengkeret dan kasar. Huaaa, mamiiiihhh. Dan ini bukan kejadian yang pertama kali. Berhubung saya bukan orang yang telaten dalam mencuci dan tidak menjadi ibu rumah tangga dalam waktu dekat, otomatis saya perlu usaha juga gimana supaya baju-baju gak cepet rusak dan tahan lama. Dan pastinya harus hemat listrik. Yakkk, nabuuung dulu...

 2. Mobil

Ini agak susah karena (1) saya juga gak mampu afford mobil mahal (2) biaya perawatan mobil tetaplah tinggi, tapi ini jadi bahan pertimbangan karena eh karena, jikalau saya suatu hari nanti mampu atau perlu memiliki, saya gak mau mengorbankan masalah keselamatan. Berkendara di Jakarta kan ga ada yang tau ya, kita mungkin udah drive safely tapi orang lain belum tentu. Jadi masalahnya bukan di harga mobilnya, tapi saya gak mau punya mobil semata-mata karena harganya murah doang - dia harus punya fitur-fitur keselamatan standar dalam kondisi baik. This is gonna be a family car for God's sake...there's gonna be my children, husband, and maybe some relatives sitting inside.

3. Tas / sepatu

You have to own one each, at very least. Tas yang berkualitas tinggi akan sangat awet dipakai sehari-hari, begitu juga dengan sepatu. Tentunya juga harus dirawat sih, tapi kalo dasarnya emang udah oke kita cuma perlu poles-poles dikit kok, dan biayanya murah. Berhubung saya kere, supaya gak rugi-rugi amat tas dan sepatu yang diniatin berkualitas tinggi harus punya warna yang netral dan modelnya klasik. Kalo bisa sih branded, tapi kalo gak mampu yaa cari aja merek lokal atau fashion outlet yang sekiranya masih punya bahan yang baik. 

4. Some beauty / make up products

Naahhh, there are some problems because: (1) my skin is quite normal at most times, only getting a bit oilier and shinier during the day...but if i'm not being careful on what products i am using i'll be developing a symptom of allergy (2) my face is kind of dull and i want an improvement (3) i love make-up but i wish to make it look natural..as if i didn't put anything on. I have found the answers but some of them costs a fortune!! Luckily they last quite awhile.

Kalo hal-hal di luar itu sih, beli yang biasa-biasa (asal hypoallergenic) hayuuukk aja. Sebenarnya masih kepingin foundation yang agak bagus sih (btw, foundation termasuk item splurge, beda banget kualitas barang murah sama mahal, termasuk keamanannya bagi penderita alergi) tapi takut rugi karena saya pasti jarang make. Eh sama concealer buat mata panda ini, tapi yang lama belom abiiiss, again gak mau rugi.



Ah, I don't know what else, pengennya sih semuanya splurgeeee!! Kapan naik gaji bro??